When dating someone new, you experience a whirlwind of thrilling, exciting and even a few terrifying emotions thrown in there. It can be quite confusing and you need to be able to step back to see things more clearly.
When it all gets to be too exciting, use these tips for dating someone new to help keep your feet planted firmly on the ground.
Regardless of where you have met, you must be able to enjoy being around each other. Before meeting, you probably have exchanged small chat, emails, or texts.
It can be scary wondering if they are going to like you but it’s important to be yourself. It’s better to figure out right away if you are going to get along rather than wasting time, trying to be someone you’re not.
Don’t Show Them Off Too Soon To Friends and Family
Wait to see if it’s going to work before you start hanging out with friends and family. You don’t want to send the wrong message to your family that this new person is more than what they really are. It could also scare your new date off if they feel like things are moving too fast.
When you begin dating , you have to realize that they had a life before you started going out. You shouldn’t be worrying about if anyone is flirting or who this person has in their life. You need to work on just getting to know each other and enjoy these first stages of dating.
Don’t Talk About The Past
We all have a past. And most people base their present on their past experiences. Every relationship is different. Don’t project your past experiences onto your current date and assume that they are acting like someone from your past.
It’s not fair to that person and you should give them the benefit of the doubt. It is nearly impossible to not think about the past, but work on eliminating comparisons to give them a chance.
Find The Right Balance
When you are first dating a new person, you need to make sure that you aren’t too clingy but then you also don’t want to come off as too cold and distant.
It’s important to genuinely listen and be interested in the conversation. Don’t dominate the conversation but be a part of the give and take that starts off all new friendships and relationships.
When a relationship is just starting, it’s new, exciting and filled with a physical chemistry but that will fade over time. You have to have shared interests, similar morals and ethics and more importantly, the same expectations.
When you begin dating someone and it turns out you really like them, the world seems more magical and you feel more alive. Just remember to enjoy the moment and not work too hard on it. Try not to feel too anxious and relax knowing that whatever will be, will be.